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The Cape Town Fish Market

The Cape Town Fish Market

by Bianca Fernandes / 21.12.2010

Cape Town – the biggest bunch of gays on the continent, literally. And the epicenter is the gay mother city of Africa. An abstract of everyday living, a parallel universe to the burbs and the breeders. We’re talking here about the female gay community, our very own Cape Town Fish Market, just as fishy and unpredictable as the restaurant.

This is where straight girls come to get away from their narrow lives, with the same intention of everyone here – to explore and be explored. “Fuck me so I forget who I am”. Short-cut, menthol-smoking, black label-loving dykes and their femme counterparts gather in the pink strip with the same intention. To fuck any girl that gives them the right look. It’s a scouting ground for the lesbos of Cape Town to meet, drink and make sexy eyes with the nearest girl. The Fish Market – named fittingly for its aggressive approach and notorious sexual happenings (like that one time when a girl pushed me down to the dirt floor and fucked me for all to see. Quickly, arrogantly, then done).

The default look of leather jackets, skinny jeans and sneakers. Dressing for success determines what’ll end up in your bed or backseat. Green Point Main Road is where it all happens on a Friday night. Wonderfully colourful personalities sparkle with passion and egomania. Intimidation is a game that never stops. Relentless. Sex is a core component of this life, loneliness being the motivation for it all.

Devoted, straight or commitment-phobic, they’ll look you up and down no matter what your relationship status. These are the true wild ones, and they love their label. The ease of picking up a fuck for the night and a number for the next. It’s raunchy. It’s wild. And it’s so much fun with the right amount of tequila poured down your throat. Shy girls, turn around and run, because you’ll never make it here. In this game, the requirements are attitude, sex appeal, a dirty mind and an open mouth. Not to mention the ability to live without regret… or at least stall it for a while.

The unsettling curiosity they strike in homophobes is not just a stereotype. You should be afraid, because sometimes they even scare themselves with the way they live. Like a rolling stone or their favourite character from The L Word. The pace and carelessness of hook-ups plays out like a badly made amateur porno.

Mimicking the alternative lifestyles they’ve seen on TV, the only thing anyone’s afraid of is being alone for the night, or forever, and it shows. Reacting to the loneliness, people become aggressive, after a while, you get jaded. The more aggressive and jaded you become, the more powerful the player you create. The truth is we all want to be loose and sexy, the best-fuck-out-there, smooth-as-butter-Shane (from The L Word). But really there is a one in a million chance you are that person without it leading to some sort of breakdown or complete loss of control and self. We all admire a successful slut, and once or twice, we put it all on the line to be them for a night. Sometimes it changes everything, mostly it makes us wish we were dead from the utter dirty feeling that comes along with using something that isn’t you to get pleasure that really wasn’t worth it all it.

Once you’ve learnt the game, and played it well, the time to settle down beckons, rapidly and eagerly. Ego no longer is the centre of your universe, commitment is needed. Long term happiness hits hard along with a rising sense of self-respect that was never involved before. Then true love hits you hard, almost 3 times a year. So does heart-break. The heteros deal with these issues, we all relate, but multiply hetero issues by 3 and you’ll get the full length and breadth of the homo experience.

We do what we do, not because we are trying to fit in with the social scene, but rather, the activities we use to achieve this lifestyle have become popular and trendy because they get us what we want. For that reason alone we act the way we do, drawing all kinds of attention and connotations that really don’t matter in our world. So be free to make your judgements, stand up and tell us how much we annoy you and how disgusting you think we are, but quite honestly, no one is paying any attention – we are too busy sleeping around.

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  1. Max says:

    Strong as fuck. More tales of lesbian deviancy please!

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  2. manam says:

    i don’t like reading about how homosexuals as hyper-sexual. i think it’s a stereotype that further marginalizes them.

    but i’m curious–why do people like to portray and write about the community this way?

    this why corrective rape is okay, because it’s “lesbian deviancy”

    i really loathe the fact that Cape Town’s wealthy, bored gays are seen as a representative for homosexuality in SA.

    in fact, fuck Cape Town. it’s the only place where i’m actually proudly homophobic.

    ya, anyway, do your thing, whatever your motives are. just saying, this doesn’t normalize homosexuality.

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  3. Sibongile says:

    ‘ this is why corrective rape is okay, because it’s ” lesbian deviancy” ‘

    What kind of a person thinks that that is okay to write? How fucking dare you!!!!!

    Have you been ” correctively ” raped? Go have a cock rammed inside of you and tell me how it feels!

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  4. @manam says:

    “in fact, fuck Cape Town. it’s the only place where i’m actually proudly homophobic”

    Well, fuck you right back! If your so homophobic about cape town then stay where you are..we dont want you here.

    Have you ever been in a township where you had a secret to hide from your family, your friends and the people around you? Where you fear for your life just because you like to fuck women? It’s a normal thing from a young age, yet you are seen as evil. Worst yet the men that you loath so much want to RAPE you to make you see straight. HOW IS THIS RIGHT, and how the fuck, what the fuck gives you the right to say this?

    Rape suggested in any term is never going to solve the problem.
    Why are you straight? Why should we have to normalize the way we are because people are so closed minded about things.

    Do you know what gets me is that, yes the lesbian community is slutty, relationship last a week and it feels like we have been dating for years. BUT have you spent time with slutty bi people? Im not discriminating but to hear girls talking about how they fucked this chick and then fuck this guy in the same night…i dont understand, they have the right to be with whoever they choose but the lesbian population is small, we dont have the luxury of walking into a bar and picking up a women. Men say we have it easier because women feel more comfortable around a lesbian, but try hitting on that women and watching her flee to the first cock she can see.

    Manam, maybe you should come to cape town and i can chase the girls i try to hit on your way. Seeming those may be the type of women you love to have in your homophobic bubble.

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  5. manam says:

    you are fucking idiots.

    i am saying that corrective rape happens because people view homosexuality as “titilating” “lesbian deviancy” as opposed to someone’s sexuality, which articles like this purport with the stereotype of the “amoral, hyper-sexual homosexual’–which really, is another way othering.

    i know it’s a level of thinking, you might have not acquainted yourself with, being insulated as you probably are, but jesus, learn to fucking read analytically, first.

    secondly, yes, i hate the white, wealthy and bored gay community in Cape Town, because it is the fact that their frivolity and decadence is used as the main representation that people who actually face life threatening homophobia in poor communities, are continually assaulted. because as the first commenter, whom i was quoting, it’s only “deviancy”.

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  6. manam says:

    i’m not saying rape is okay. i am saying this representation is irresponsible, and is used as fuel by rapists.

    what is so hard to understand by that? it’s like queer studies 101.

    at the person who posted as ‘@manam’ I respect you, i in no way condone violence against lesbian, no matter who they are, this is most likely a misunderstanding, i think we’re on the same team. i think you might disagree with me with me on the issue of how using Cape Town as a representation has destructive repercussions, but that’s fine.

    at Sibongile go fuck yourself.

    or go to school and learn the use of quotes for ironic distancing. you sound like one of those desktop activists. outraged, but dumb and shallow as fuck.

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  7. Muerte says:

    ‘used as fuel by rapists’ – what’s that supposed to mean? you sound like charles bronson in ‘death wish 3’. other than that you’re on the money manam. what does bianca have to say about the glib sexual nihilism she portrayed?

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  8. manam says:

    just youtubed ‘Death Wish 3’. damn. i wasn’t even born when this came out. it looks money, though, i’ma torrent it. point taken. i meant (with ‘fuel’) they use it as a raison d’être for their violence.

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  9. Anonymous says:

    looooooooooooooooook someone studied literature.

    all bow down and hail the person who can jumble big words up and seem to be more intelligent then the simple person on the street.

    Dammit enough of this lesbian politics. (hahahaha, show me a lesbian relationship with no drama?).
    To put things in simple terms:
    Lesbians like women.
    They find a hot women, who becomes crazy attached, the get distracted by other hot women flirting there asses off for a “sexual experience.”
    They then tend to follow this flirting with more forward interactions.
    …annnnd to end the story they get bored and move on to the next clingy women that will put up with their hormones and dramas.

    You are putting two of the MOST intensely emotional humans together. You are bound to have some sexual “sluttyness”.

    Why is it okay for men to be seen as players?
    Yet, women who like women and do the same as these “players”
    ..they are seen as sluts?
    I really don’t get it.

    Just a rant for the day. 🙂

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  10. Anonymous says:

    “looooooooooooooooook someone studied literature.

    all bow down and hail the person who can jumble big words up and seem to be more intelligent then the simple person on the street.”

    Ment for manam

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  11. manam says:

    You’re shallow. I’m out here doing the thinking for you ’cause I love you and your right right to love.

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  12. manam says:

    you’re an anti-intellectual, actually. and somehow you think that’s okay. your parents probably taught you to view educated people as affected–they weren’t much and hence you. i’m expressing a counter-argument here, not to seem smart but to debate about the problem of homosexuals being marginalized in our ‘free’ society. but here you are, ad hominem.

    why weren’t you just aborted? fuck this world.

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  14. franz says:

    Everybody needs to get away, just like everyone wants to go home.
    I wish you steady relationships – not just sexual.
    I don’t think “straight” heartbreak is any less intense than “gay” heartbreak.
    Being human means being vulnerable.
    Kudos for living in the moment.
    Just don’t let it keep you from commitment, because there is as much joy in a long term relationship as there can be pain.
    Fellow Capetownian Boerneef said : “die mense wat ek liefhet, kom groei op my soos mos,
    daar laat ek hul na hartelus gedy….” (the people I love, grow on me like moss, and I let them…)
    Everybody knows the saying about a rolling stone, but Mick Jagger has children everywhere and gets great joy from them (I’ve read)
    If true love hits you 3 times a year, you are luckier than most –
    say “I love You” – mean it – and hang on – if Sappho could do it, so can you.
    Use your jade for a nice vase, stick some flowers in it.

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  15. Shaboom says:

    To ad some further conflict here, is it perhaps possible that many lesbians are nymphomaniacs who don’t have the looks or the confidence to sleep with men?

    In Pretoria all the lesbians are Afrikaans, is this perhaps due to their conservative upbringing that they choose female company because they are afraid what their parents and other people might say if they were with a different guy every night, but if its a girl, they’re just friends, right? I know for a fact my lesbian friends hide their sexual orientation from their parents. Or is it a cry for attention?

    In any case, honestly, I do find lesbians intimidating and I am uncomfortable when they invade my personal space (which they often disregard by standing way too close for comfort). I suppose their sexual confidence threatens straight girls. Lesbians intimidate me in the same way a girl hitting on my boyfriend would and I must admit I don’t like them, but if they leave me alone I’m gonna leave them alone.

    If this lifestyle makes them happy it’s got nothing to do with anyone else anyway, everyone is entitled to happiness and everyone finds it in a different place.

    Just an input of a straight girl’s perception.. Sorry if I offended.

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  16. de.vi.ous says:

    i’m scared of girls who like girls. especially the ones who look like boys…

    i’m more scared of boys who like boys. especially the ones who look like girls…

    cape town is a scary place. especially if you want to get laid. especially when they take their clothes off.

    help me, i’m scared.

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  17. de.vi.ous says:


    you make me feel safe. thank you.


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  18. de.vi.ous says:


    you make me feel safe too. thank you.

    i don’t want to sleep with fishy girls. they might have more testos than me and that’s very scary.

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